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The Why We Gather Community


Why We Gather is an online resource that enables those who are experiencing the grieving process or mourning the loss of a loved one to connect with one another and to hear from experts. There are four ways you can utilize this program to help you move through your grief.

Written Grief Resources

To gain a greater understanding of the grief process and the support you can receive for different kinds of grief, you can read the resources found on this site, written by Dr. William G. "Bill" Hoy, DMin, FT (bio below). These include:

YouTube Channel (www.youtube.com/WhyWeGather)

This channel houses short videos from experts speaking on the topic of grief, the role a funeral plays in the mourning process and more. You can simply watch videos on-demand or create a YouTube account for free and subscribe to the channel to receive real-time updates each time a new video is posted. You also can comment on the videos and interact with other users.

Facebook Page (www.facebook.com/WhyWeGather)

Here you can share your story and get feedback from other users. You also can “like” the page to receive updates in your News Feed.

Twitter Page (www.twitter.com/WhyWeGather)

This page is for those who have a Twitter account and wish to follow the @WhyWeGather feed for the latest news and updates, with links to videos and articles on the topic of mourning and grief.


William G. Hoy, DMin, FT is the director of Texas-based Grief Connect, a Center for bereavement education. As an educator, author and counselor, he has walked alongside grieving people for more than 25 years. In addition to presenting more than 70 invited lectures each year to groups of caregiving professionals across the United States and Canada, Dr. Hoy teaches in the Medical Humanities Program, College of Arts and Sciences at Baylor University.


Why We Gather Disclaimer and Terms of Use: Why We Gather is provided for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended to constitute medical advice. All the information provided through Why We Gather is made in good faith, but with no warranty as to its efficacy, completeness or accuracy. Persons using this information do so at their own risk and by doing so agree to indemnify Why We Gather and its content providers from all liability, injury and costs arising from such person’s use. Anyone suffering from debilitating grief should seek help from a trained medical professional. If your grief is causing suicidal thoughts, call 911 immediately.

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What people are saying about Selected members

"We want to take this opportunity to thank Horan and McConaty for the excellent job that was done at our mother's funeral. At the time the arrangements were made, our funeral director was extremely compassionate and efficient. Every detail we wanted at our mother's service was present. This type of OUTSTANDING employee is extremely rare to find in any type of business. Because of this excellent service, we will be making an appointment to pre-plan our funeral service."

– S.G.., Aurora, CO
Served by member firm Horan & McConaty Funeral Service/Cremation

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