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"This is the first funeral I have helped plan. The most meaningful action was when Mom died and the person who came at 2:00 a.m. was wearing a suit and tie. That simple action—showing respect to the family and Mom's remains—is so appreciated. All the little extras Groce did for us were above expectations; they knew what we needed before we did and they had everything prepared and ready when needed."
- A.L., Asheville, NC
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Bereavement Support For Spouses
Saying Goodbye To Your Lifemate
Whether the relationship was measured in months or in decades, the death of your lifemate is a loss for which you are never completely prepared. Well-meaning friends and family members sometimes encourage you to "move on" and even remind you that your mate "wouldn't want you to be sad." But that's just not how grief works.
Bereavement is not best faced in isolation; we all need at least one or two supportive people around us. Young Widow - Chapter Two and Parents without Partners provide online resources and links to local chapters. Most communities also have a group named Widowed Persons Service or similar. You can search the internet for "widowed persons service (your city or county name)" or contact your local member firm of Selected Independent Funeral Homes to discover this resource in your community. You might also try connecting with a widow-to-widow online forum such as Widowed Village or WidowNet. Or, you can download our free brochure on How to Find a Grief Support Group.
Learning to live again without your lifemate is an enormous challenge, so reading the perspectives of others who have made the journey can be helpful. Many widowed people have found these books to be particularly insightful:
Visit our Additional Grief Resources page or, for even more helpful information, informative literature and trusted guidance, contact your local Selected Independent Funeral Home by using our Member Locator.
The intimacy shared with a lifemate makes this loss unlike any other. Give yourself time to find your way as you build a new life on the foundation of what you shared.