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Coping With Loss


If you recently have lost someone in your life, this may be the first time that the word grief has become personal; no longer is death something that happens to other people in other places. The multitude of experiences resulting from this overwhelming loss—emotional, physical, social, spiritual and cognitive—comprise what we call "grief."

Experienced by people of each generation, in all cultures, and from every walk of life, grief is a universal experience. Most simply, grief is the process of learning to adjust life after a significant loss. That term, "adjust life" might seem odd, but remember grief is all about learning to live in new ways. We don't really "recover" from grief or "get over it." Instead, we learn to manage life in a radically changed world.

You can use the resources in this section to find more information on ways to cope with your loss. You also can connect with others who are grieving and hear from experts by exploring The Why We Gather Community. In addition, your nearest member of Selected Independent Funeral Homes can provide additional helpful information and trusted guidance. Use our Member Locator to find a reliable source for informative literature and answers to your questions.




The pages in the Coping With Loss section of this website were written by William G. Hoy, DMin, FT, director of Texas-based Grief Connect, a Center for bereavement education. As an educator, author and counselor, he has walked alongside grieving people for more than 25 years. In addition to presenting more than 70 invited lectures each year to groups of caregiving professionals across the United States and Canada, Dr. Hoy teaches in the Medical Humanities Program, College of Arts and Sciences at Baylor University.

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What people are saying about Selected members

"We would like to thank you for the manner in which our son/brother's burial was handled and executed just as we requested. We also greatly appreciate the thoughtfulness, letters, literature and gifts during the past year. Your professionalism, caring and understanding exceeded our expectations. Once again, thank you!"

– Anon.., Belmont, NC
Served by member firm McLean Funeral Directors of Gastonia-Founders Chapel

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