We express our sincere condolences to families within our association
who have lost a loved one.

Alert Us to a Death

Please use this Obituary Form to alert Headquarters of the death of an individual within the association so that we may inform all members. The completed form may be faxed to 847-236-9968 or emailed to

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Thomas McAfee III

Thomas F. McAfee III - May 20, 2020

Thomas F. McAfee III, Past-President of Thomas McAfee Funeral Homes, Greenville, SC, died May 20. He is survived by his sons; Thomas F. McAfee IV, President and Funeral Director at the firm; Bill McAfee; and John F. McAfee , Vice President, Secretary Treasurer and Funeral Director at the firm. He also is survived by four grandchildren. Memorial contributions may be made to Bon Secours St. Francis Health System Foundation, 1 St. Francis Dr., Greenville, SC 29601, or Prince of Peace Catholic Church, 1209 Brushy Creek Rd., Taylors, SC 29687. Additional information.

Joan Arnold

Joan C. Arnold - April 5, 2020

Joan C. Arnold, sister of John L. Arnold, President of Arnold Funeral Home, Canton, OH, died April 5. She also is survived at the firm by her nephew, John S. Arnold, Vice-President. Memorial contributions may be made to Stark County Humane Society or CommQuest Recovery Services in Canton. Additional information.

Richard Steele II and Barbara Steele

Richard C. Steele II - April 4, 2020

Barbara L. Steele - April 3, 2020

Richard C. Steele II, Vice-President of Penzien & Steele Funeral Home, Inc., Bay City, MI, and his, mother Barbara L. Steele, Purchasing Agent for the firm, have died. Richard on April 4 and Barbara on April 3. They are survived by Barbara's husband and Richard II's father, Richard C. Steele I, President of the firm; Richard II's wife, Marie; Richard's two children; and Barbara's other son and Richard II's brother, John. Additional information for Richard. Additional information for Barbara.

Charles & Retta Billow

Charles W. Billow - March 27, 2020

Retta H. Billow - April 1, 2020

Charles W. Billow, Past Board Member of NSM, died March 27; and his wife, Retta H. Billow, died April 1. They are the parents of Charles M. "Chip" Billow, President & CEO of Billow Funeral Homes, Akron, OH, and Past President of Selected. They also are survived by daughters, Corporate Secretary & Funeral Director of the firm, Ann Billow Grebelsky, and Laura Billow Preston; daughter-in-law, Patricia Billow; son-in-law, Robert Long; nine grandchildren including Nathanael Billow, Executive Vice President & Treasurer and Funeral Director at the firm, and Anastasia Billow, Funeral Director at the firm; and four great grandchildren. Memorials may be made to C.W. & R.H. Billow Fund c/o St. Paul’s Episcopal Church Foundation, 1361 W. Market Street, Akron, OH, 44313; Stan Hywet Hall & Gardens; or the Summa Foundation. To send flowers to the family or plant a tree in memory of Charles W. and Retta H. Billow, please visit the Billow Funeral Homes floral store. Additional information.

Elaine School

Elaine F. School - March 4, 2020

Elaine F. School, mother of Terry School, owner of Selected Preferred Partner The Davis Whitehall Co. died March 4. Additional information.

Karl Denk

Karl Denk - February 29, 2020

Karl Denk, father of Karl A. Denk, Bestattungen Karl Albert Denk, Erding, Germany, died February 29. Additional information.

John Busch

John M. Busch - February 23, 2020

John M. Busch, former owner and funeral director of Busch Funeral and Crematory Services and Past Secretary-Treasurer of Selected died February 23. He is survived by his sons, James, President of the firm and Past Secretary-Treasurer of Selected; and J. Mark, Vice-President of the firm. Memorial contributions may be made to Parma-South Presbyterian Church, 6155 Pearl Rd, Parma Heights, OH 44130; Kirk of the Keys Presbyterian, 8877 Overseas Hwy, Marathon, FL 33050; or Bay Presbyterian Church, 25415 Lake Rd, Bay Village, OH 44140. Additional information.

Ralph Waite

Ralph E. Waite - February 18, 2020

Ralph E. Waite, third-generation owner of Waite & Son Funeral Home, Medina, OH, died February 18. He is survived by gtwo sons; six grandchildren, including funeral directors and owners of the firm, Andrew and Christopher; thirteen great grandchildren and one expected great grandson. Memorials may be made to Ralph E. Waite Elementary PTO, 4765 Cobblestone Dr., Medina, OH 44256; Cups Café, 126 N Court St, Medina, OH 44256; Vine & Branches, 1023 Concord Drive, Medina, OH 44256; or Harvest Presbyterian Church, 1095 E Reagan Pkwy, Medina, OH 44256. Additional information.

Gillian Darling

Gillian Darling - February 16, 2020

Gillian Darling, mother of Lisa Steel and mother-in-law of Iain Steel of Richard Steel & Partners, Ltd., Winchester, England, died February 16. Memorials may be made to Hampshire & Isle of Wight Air Ambulance. Additional information.

Dolores Allnutt

Delores Allnutt - February 5, 2020

Dolores “Dee” Allnutt, Vice-President of former Selected member firm, Allnutt Funeral Service/Macy Chapel, Greeley, CO, and wife of Past President of NSM, Bill Allnutt, died February 5. She also is survived by her children, Mike, President of the firm, Rick, and Kathy; and 9 grandchildren. Additional information.

Cora Messinger

Cora R. Messinger - January 27, 2020

Cora R.Messinger, wife of Paul R. Messinger, Chairman of the Board and co-founder/owner of Messinger Mortuaries, Cemeteries & Crematories, Scottsdale, AZ, died January 27. She also is survived by her sons, President of the firm, H. Kendrick, Vice-President of the firm, David; granddaughters, Kristin Schenkel, Assistant CEO of the firm, and Sabrina ; two great grandchildrens, and a new great granddaughter expected in March. Additional information.

John Vincent

John A. Vincent - January 22, 2020

John A. Vincent, retired funeral director of Vincent Funeral Services, Tasmania, Australia, died January 22. He is survived at the firm by his son and Managing Director, Peter; and daughter-in-law and General Manager, Tara. Additional information.

Jack Morris

Jack R. Morris - January 18, 2020

Jack R. Morris, retired CEO of Downing & Lahey Mortuaries, Wichita, KS, died January 18. He is survived by his wife, retired Secretary/Treasurer of the firm, Marlane; children, Leslie; John; Steve; Tom, President of the firm; Tom’s wife Jennifer, Follow-Up Coordinator at the firm; and Sandy; 14 grandchildren including Allison and Michael, both of the firm; and 3 great-granddaughters with one on the way. Memorials have been established with Parkinson’s Foundation, 200 SE 1st St., Ste. 800, Miami, FL 33131, and Wichita Junior Golf Foundation, 58 E. Via Verde St., Wichita, KS 67230. Additional information.

Dorothy Wiseman

Dorothy A. Wiseman - January 7, 2020

Dorothy A. Wiseman, grandmother of Sarah Pojanowski, General Counsel for Selected, died January 7. Memorial contributions may be made to Bethany United Methodist Church, P.O. Box 487, Purcellville, VA 20134. Additional information.

A.J. Hutto

A.J. Hutto Jr. - January 6, 2020

Azel James “A.J.” Hutto Jr., President, Owner and Funeral Director of Dukes-Harley Funeral Home and Crematory, Orangeburg, SC, died January 6. He is survived at the firm by his sons, Funeral Director and Embalmer, A.J. “Jay” Hutto III and Funeral Director and Embalmer, Mark William Hutto. Memorials may be made to First Presbyterian Church, 650 Summers Ave, Orangeburg, SC 29115 or St. Paul’s United Methodist Church, 1356 Amelia Street, Orangeburg, SC 29115. Additional information.

John Michelotti

John J. Michelotti - November 18, 2019

John J. Michelotti, President of former Selected-member firm, Michelotti-Sawyers Mortuary & Crematory, Billings, MT, and Past President of NSM, died November 18. Additional information.

Ted Westgor

Ted W. Westgor - November 9, 2019

Ted W. Westgor, former president of Westgor Funeral Homes, Neenah, WI, and Past Selected Board member, died November 9. The Westgor family will be establishing memorials to St. Paul’s Lutheran Church, Calvary Chapel Gulf Coast, Avow Hospice of Naples and the Alzheimer’s Association. Additional information.

Wanda Sue Weatherford

Wanda Sue Weatherford - November 5, 2019

Wanda Sue Weatherford, mother of Jason Winters, President of McClendon-Winters Funeral Home, Okmulgee, OK, died November 5. Memorial contributions may be made to the Joe D. Weatherford Memorial Endowed Scholarship in Funeral Service, c/o The University of Central Oklahoma Foundation, 100 N. University Drive, Edmond, OK 73034, or in care of the funeral home. Additional information.

Cheryl McKenzie

Cheryl McKenzie - October 25, 2019

Cheryl McKenzie, wife of Grant McKenzie, past Selected Board member and partner in former Selected member firm McKenzie & Blundy Funeral Home & Cremation Centre Ltd., Sarnia, ON, Canada, died October 25. Memorial contributions may be made to St. Joseph’s Hospice, 475 Christina Street N., Sarnia, ON, N7T 5W3, Canada; Dr. Linda Bowring Music Therapy Program, c/o Bluewater Health, 89 Norman Street, Sarnia, ON N7T 6S3, Canada; Cystic Fibrosis Canada; or the charity of their choice. Additional information.

Jacquelyn Taylor

Jacquelyn S. Taylor, Ph.D - October 20, 2019

Jacquelyn S. Taylor, Ph.D, funeral director, embalmer, teacher, scholar, thinking coach, and Selected friend and supporter, died October 20. Memorial contributions may be made to United Church Walpole Capital Fund, P.O. Box 287, Walpole, MA 02081. Additional information.

Beverly Ludwick

Beverly M. Ludwick - September 7, 2019

Beverly M. Ludwick, former secretary of Ludwick Funeral Home, Kutztown, PA, and mother of Jim Ludwick, Owner and President of the firm, died September 7. Memorial contributions may be made to Moravian College c/o Roy and Beverly Ludwick Scholarship Fund, 1200 N. Main Street, Bethlehem, PA 18018. Additional information.

Sylvia Mothe

Sylvia C. Mothe - September 6, 2019

Sylvia C. Mothe, wife of Boyd L. Mothe Sr., Chairman of the Board and Funeral Director at Mothe Funeral Homes, LLC, New Orleans, LA, died September 6. She also is survived by her three children including Boyd Jr., President, CEO, Funeral Director and Embalmer at the firm; and Laurie, Secretary Treasurer and Funeral Director at the firm; eight grandchildren including Nicole, Funeral Director at the firm; Kathryn, Funeral Director at the firm; Boyd III, Funeral Director and Embalmer at the firm; and eight great grandchildren. Additional information.

Brian Horne

Brian R.H. Horne - September 1, 2019

Brian R.H. Horne, Funeral Director and President of Horne Funeral Service, Christiansburg, VA. died September 1. He is survived by his wife, Amy, four daughters, his father at the firm, Richard H. Horne. Memorial contributions may be made to the children’s trust fund under Brian Horne Memorial Fund at American National Bank & Trust; 2950 Market St; Christiansburg VA 24073 or the Christiansburg Volunteer Fire Department. Additional information.